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Sunday, November 19, 2017

Sample Prayers and God's Answers



The Asperger's traits addressed in this post include:
*Finding celebrations and parties stressful
*Difficulty communicating

A few weeks ago to a revival service at my mom's church. The sermon blessed my heart from two aspects. One was having faith to pray for needs to be met. The other aspect was responding to the Holy Spirit when you may be the one to answer the prayers of someone else.

I'm thankful for a variety of answered prayers recently. One evening, I took my daughter to a Fall Festival hosted by a local church. I prayed for safety in driving (as my dad taught me to do every time I leave home), and I prayed for my daughter to not get upset during the games. I thought that particular prayer was needed, because she had gone to an activity a few weeks ago that involved a lot of different games and kids milling around, and she got upset and nervous and hesitant to participate. (She is only four and a half, so it's understandable.) The previous activity was held inside a small children's library, so it was quite crowded. I didn't feel all that comfortable in the crowd myself! 

So imagine my relief when we got to the Fall Festival, and the games were spread out across the lawn with plenty of space! We also got there a little early and she was able to try some easy games before the crowd arrived, since the church folks were already manning the booths. She stayed happy and active throughout our time there, and it blessed my heart to see her smile.

So remember I prayed for safety in driving? Well, we recently acquired a new-to-us car, and my husband told me it did not have automatic lights. So that evening, as we were leaving Fall Festival, I turned on the lights. Then a parking attendant for the event, one of the church folks, waved his baton for me to stop. He came around to my window and said, "Your headlights aren't on - only your parking lights." So I hadn't realized which symbol meant what on the knob for lights, and assumed my headlights were on, since my dash was lit up. We experienced God's protection, for sure, because I had not driven the car after dark until that night.

Ready for one more? Recently I decided it was time to switch my son's carseat to forward-facing, since he was outgrowing the rear-facing position. I tried several times to pull the lever that would loosen the strap, but it wouldn't budge. I decided to pray aloud about the problem. After struggling a little more, it occurred to me to lower the seat back, and then the latch was able to be unhooked, finally. 

It's great to know God is walking alongside of me, listening and guiding and protecting, each step of the way.

How this topic relates to Christian living:

Psalm 18:2-3

The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower. I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

My Rejoicing Journal

The Asperger's traits addressed in this post include:
* Much time spent on introspection
* Anxiety and depression
* Difficulty expressing emotions appropriately

Adapted from “Self-Esteem Journal,” TherapistAid.com

Monday
Something I did well today . . .
Today I had fun when . . .
I felt glad when . . .

Tuesday
Today I accomplished . . .
I had a positive experience with . . .
Something I did for someone . . .

Wednesday
I felt good about myself when . . .
I was pleased with someone else . . .
Today was interesting because . . .

Thursday
I felt glad when . . .
A positive thing I witnessed . . .
Today I accomplished . . .

Friday
Something I did well today . . .
I had a positive experience with . . .
I was pleased with someone when . . .

Saturday
Today I had fun when . . .
Something I did for someone . . .
I felt good about myself when . . .

Sunday
A positive thing I witnessed . . .
Today was interesting because . . .
I felt glad when . . .

How this topic relates to Christian living:

"Rejoice in the Lord alway, and again I say, rejoice."

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Occupational Therapy for Aspies

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I gathered these tips from a local occupational therapist who spoke at my Mothers of PreSchoolers group in 2014.

Level of High Arousal
  • Excited
  • Hyper
  • Restless
Prescription to Calm Down
  • Rocking
  • Heavy Lifting
  • Pressing Against Something Immovable
  • Closing Your Eyes
  • Breathing Deeply
  • Tensing Muscles to a Count of 40

Level of Low Arousal
  • Zoning Out
  • Tired
  • Drowsy
  • Bored
Prescription to Calm Up
  • Spinning
  • Dangling Head Upside-Down
  • Pacing
  • Making Figure Eights with Each Arm in Turn
  • Making Figure Eights with Each Hand Over Each Foot
  • Dancing
  • Listening to Peppy Music
  • Swinging
  • Eating Candy or Chocolate
  • Drinking Cold Water
Level of Midtone Arousal
  • Comfort
  • Peaceful
  • Ideal for Learning
Prescription to Stay Calm
  • Swaying Side-to-Side
  • Listening to Soft Music
  • Humming
  • Singing
  • Smiling
  • Breathing Deeply
  • Keeping Good Posture
  • Writing Your Thoughts
  • Getting Comfortable in Your Body
  • Not Letting Crowds or Chaos Affect You (See Solutions for Sensory Integration Dysfunction)

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

"The Man With Two Left Feet" by P. G. Wodehouse


The Asperger's traits addressed in this post include:
*Abnormal fascination with special interests
*Rule-bound behavior
*Difficulty communicating
*Difficulty learning to relax

I enjoy listening to The Classic Tales Podcast, in which B. J. Harrison reads aloud old favorites and more obscure pieces that are in the public domain. When I clicked on "The Man With Two Left Feet," I came across Harrison's accurate interpretation of the main character's traits of Asperger's syndrome.
Now, I know that the definition of autism has been evolving since 1908 until what it is today, but I think that the hero of today’s story is on what is now considered the autism spectrum. My reasons for saying this?

1) His method of study is unorthodox, and requires an incredible amount of tenacity, even fixation. Most people couldn’t do this. This is what I term the autism super power.

2) His unwillingness to vary his study schedule of the Encyclopedia (He won’t skip a volume).

3) He imagines a fantasy scheme where his problems are all solved, and works diligently to accomplish this impossible task.

4) He is rather socially awkward, bless him.
This is no way official, and I can’t back it up with anything other than my own observations, but when I read this story, it struck me how my autistic son has many of these same character traits. He also demonstrates the autism super power, and is a truly amazing boy. I find it encouraging that P.G. Wodehouse saw how characters of this temperament could find happiness and love in a world that largely misunderstands them.
Maybe you'd like to hear or read "The Man With Two Left Feet" yourself - and who knows? - maybe you'll see yourself reflected there. The link to The Classic Tales Podcast is no longer working, so here is a link to another reader's interpretation of Wodehouse's comical work.

Section 09 in Short Story Collection Vol. 065 on Librivox

How this topic applies to Christian Living:

I Corinthians 13:7
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Monday, August 29, 2016

Sabbatical

I'm going to take a rest from adding to this blog, for the simple reason that typing at the computer makes my neck and back pain flare up. I'll be writing with pencil and paper in the meantime, and hope to add more posts again someday.

Meanwhile, perhaps my readers would like to explore my other blogs:

Harpsichord: A Poetry Blog
Fourteen, Fifteen, Foreigner: My Diary
Growing Up Gaijin: MKs in Japan
Red Letter: Jesus' Words from the Bible

Friday, February 5, 2016

Parenting Strategies for Aspies


The Asperger's traits addressed in this post include:
*Difficulty expressing emotions appropriately
*Difficulty communicating
*Much time spent on introspection

Welcome back to myself as a blogger! It's been six months since I last wrote a post, and I want to thank those of you who have continued to view this blog and read or reread the content already on here. I also wanted to let you know about my Facebook page, which is entitled, "Asperger's Traits and Christian Living," the same as the blog. It's the best place to stay alert to new posts on the blog, so please "Join" and "Share," if you're on Facebook.

As to why I let the blog lag for six months, the biggest reason is that I'm expecting a baby, and morning sickness hit me with a vengeance this time, my second pregnancy. A friend predicted that it would be a boy, based on the fact that this experience with morning sickness was very different (much worse) than my experience with my first pregnancy, a girl. She was right! Please keep me (Sharon Rose) and my family in your prayers as we prepare for our baby boy to join us in early summer, Lord willing.

As I grow as a parent, it brings my mind back to my relationship with my own parents as a child. Both of my parents identify with the core Asperger's traits, though in other ways, their personalities are very different. I'd like to list a few ways they helped me to cultivate helpful Asperger's traits and overcome the limiting traits.

1. Starting when I was 3, my dad trained me to smile for pictures. His efforts produced a range of smiles, from half-smiles with only one corner turned up, to cheesy "show your teeth" smiles. (He literally said, "Show your teeth," LOL.) But after I practiced, the smiles became more natural, and I have been unable to NOT smile for pictures ever since. I know two ladies with Asperger's traits who simply didn't smile well when they were little, and were teased about being grumpy all the time, when they actually felt fine. Sometimes, with Aspies, emotions don't reach the face accurately, though with others of us, emotions show too readily at times when they should be hid.

2. My dad's sense of humor involved making up silly stories and seeing if he could get me to believe them. Although he didn't know it, this strategy probably helped me a lot in combating the usual Asperger's traits of taking things literally and accepting without question that others are as honest and forthright as you are. If you use this tactic for humor, I just caution that you do what my dad always did, and explain quickly that you are "teasin', trickin', and foolin'." If you string somebody along too far, they will end up feeling that the joke is on them, and will resent it. By the time I was seven, I could judge when my dad was kidding based on his tone of voice and twinkle in his eye, thereby adding to my ability to interpret nonverbal language, which is a struggle for many Aspies.

3. Fast forward to my teenage years . . . My parents let me know exactly what kind of social behavior was annoying or inappropriate. This felt like nagging and criticism to me, but I needed it. Two of the biggies were: Don't mumble. ("I'm not talking to you - I'm talking to myself," I would reply. Yeah. Not socially acceptable, but a classic case of introspection taking precedence over communication.) Don't ignore me when I've said your name. (Extremely hard to do when I had my nose buried in a book, but I finally snapped out of it when my mom jabbed at my pride by putting up a star chart, "like teachers do for kindergarteners," as she said.)

I think three examples will do for now! In case you're wondering, my parents are still around now, still married to each other, and still two of my closest friends. My dad just doesn't do "teasin', trickin', and foolin'," like he used to.

How this topic relates to Christian living:

"Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."
Deuteronomy 5:16